Bondage, Descipline and Dominance, Submissive and Masochistic.

What comes to mind when you think BDSM?….

I will tell you what it is NOT and explain the wonders of what it really is or what it could be… to you!

It is not you trying to conquer trapeze art. Nor a medieval King locking away the slave you own in a dungeon for years of punishment and torture. Open your eyes to a more sexual and fun experience. Look deeper to what the relationship dynamics could be. You can be anyone, do almost anything imaginative with bondage accessories or with your willed mind filled with fantasies and sensualism.

Only… do not think that Masochism is the only element in this world of BDSM.

It is about finding what your niche is. What turns you on and what drives you. If it is only pain and anger, you are at the wrong place!

There are many activities. Let me talk about Bondage to start with. Rope is an art, but doesn’t have to be. If you are interested in perfecting it and learning it - google ‘Kinbaku’ or ‘Shibari’. It can be beautiful, meditative and look aesthetically sexy! This is not for anybody. Safety measures are needed to take place, this includes checking up on your escort (is the rope lose enough to move, but not too lose that the rope falls off). And keep rope scissors at bay! Remember the neck and nerves are fragile. It takes time to get your results, so… patience is key! Worth it in the end! Even if it is just tying the escort (me) to a chair without the artistic appeal. It is not for showing-off; it is to satisfy you. I will appreciate your dedication and as I say, it is very meditative and sexy! Bonus - your escort is vulnerable to your whim, accessible and going no-where (if that is the fantasy you desire).

I will move on to cuff’s… handcuffs, leg cuffs, spreader bars / poles and chains. These are a little less overwhelming and a lot easier to deal with. Less time to get a desired restrained result. Be careful to also checkup on the escort and make sure the positions are not overly awkward that the body does origami, or one dislocates a shoulder! Don’t be afraid to use them, they are there for your pleasure! There are so many things you can do with cuffs! Cuff to a cross, bench, bed and on the floor. Criss-cross, hog-tie, to-the-back, to-the-front, legs to hands or keep it simple. Use the cuffs as a roleplay (think, police arrest, investigation underway or just a very naughty secretary ready for her teasing or punishment or pleasure). Would you like to make it even more interesting and dominant… add more accessories: blindfold, collar & lead and a gag. Clamps too (for heightened sensation or look). Just check that collar and gag, it can cut into the mouth sides or pull in some positions. Although cuffs are fiddly (buckle in the way and whatnot), they are versatile and can be sexually pleasing to you. Wouldn’t you feel powerful having your escort cuffed while having a good sexual experience after she has “misbehaved”. Or maybe if you prefer no roleplay and want to get intense or quietly peaceful with your session. Time to think, time to observe and plenty of silence ;) (only sex sounds; moaning, or spanking) …

Let me now go into the psychology aspect of BDSM, Dominance / Discipline / Submissive / Masochistic. You will be amazed how once you get the knack for opening your alter-ego in this Sub-space or Dom-space we go into, how intense or exciting it can really be! There is more than just sexual pleasure from it. You get a mental and physical lift. Play with it. Try different things and see what works. Do some research or watch videos. Or just do what comes naturally. Whatever makes you feel comfortable.

There are good mind-games and then there are bad mind-games. Good mind-games are treating your Submissive like a pet and remembering TLC. Know their limit and respect it. Remember it is a game after all. Bad mind-games would consist of degrading talk that is realistic (inappropriate speech such as rape, murder or anything to that extreme and anything deeply personal) This is unacceptable and not tolerated. Boundaries are encouraged so that your Submissive can please you and you can have a journey together where you are both on the same level, even though you are higher by status. It is supposed to be controlled and manageable by your escort.

Dirty talk is fine, if it is porn-level. If you are looking to make your escort break, cry or provoke anger - that is not what I offer!

This can be such a wonderful experience. Imagine instructing or making me do what you want. Building up your urge and temptation. Having power and control. Placing me in positions or situations you prefer. In the end you can leave feeling mentally or sexually satisfied. This is the game you want to play.